Are you also experiencing a hard time in managing your child? Do he/she does not listen to you and you are in desperate need of disciplining them? Well, first of all, please understand that children are like clay, they are molded in a shape that you give. Therefore, before disciplining them, may you need some changes as well. I completely understand how frustrating it feels when your child defies you, maybe he/she getting the same vibes from you?
Also, if you feel that you are at the right place…do you know how to manage them or discipline them in a correct manner? Are you sure you have always made the right choices whenever it comes to disciplining your child that won’t listen?
Don’t worry; this blog will help you in disciplining a child that won’t listen with the help of great and effective strategies. So, let’s get started.
How to discipline a child that won’t listen
- Punishments can never be counted as “discipline technique.”
Disciplining your child does not include punishments. Discipline is just a way of active engagement with your kids so that they can adopt a moral character. It’s just a way to teach them right things in a positive manner. Therefore, while disciplining your child never include punishments. If you really feel the urge of punishing your child, punish them in such a way that is fruitful and positive for them.
- Keep praising them, show them empathy, and punish them positively when they make mistakes.
If you want your child to listen to you, you will really have to praise them or appreciate them for the good things they have done throughout the day. Then, move towards empathy. Be empathetic, understand their issues, and try to understand their patterns so that they can understand what you are trying to explain. Further, move towards teaching them if they are doing something wrong. Punish them in such a way that does not look like punishment or more like a fruitful lesson.
- Build boundaries and limits and follow them together.
If you think or feel that your child is moving in the wrong direction that might have a negative impact on him/her, stop them then and there. Therefore, build boundaries and limits which make them understand that they should not do this. Build boundaries in such a way that they can understand the consequences as well so that they can stick to them. Make sure you follow the boundaries together so that they can learn from you as well. In short become their role model so that they can learn from you.
- Be specific while teaching them.
While you are teaching something to your child make sure you are specific and understandable. They should be able to relate your teaching with any real example so that they can relate and understand in a better way. Moreover, make sure while you are teaching them, you are also listening and answering their concerns and questions.
- Become their parents first then friends.
The first key to encourage empathy and understanding in your child is to build respect in them. If they will respect you, they will know how to show empathy to others as well. Therefore, before becoming their buddies or friends make sure you are becoming their parents first and already have set boundaries related to it.
- Consider timing and location before bringing up any teaching lesson.
If you see your child misbehaving or undisciplined at a party or a family gathering, do not teach them then and there. However, you can stop them. Before teaching anything to your child make sure that the timings and location are appropriate to make them understand. They will never understand in a room full of people however, they will definitely understand at home in silence.
- Keep repeating the good habits until and unless they start reflecting on them.
Children take time to understand good habits as soon they catch the bad habits. Therefore, you really need to work hard on teaching good habits to them. Keep repeating good habits and make them understand until and unless they start reflecting on the good ones. Also, make sure that you are also following good habits so that they can learn from you. Try not to scold them, if they do not start reflecting on them, be patient and keep repeating. Additionally, whenever they try to reflect on the good habits, be a good listener and answer their queries efficiently.
- Offer a choice with a helpful technique.
If you feel like your children are a little bit choosy, then you can play with the right choice and helpful technique. In order to teach them discipline, you really have to get into them, understand their pattern of learning, and then try to offer a choice which they cannot deny at any cost. Always make sure that the choice consists of a helpful technique.
- Be consistent and offer good listening skills.
Life is full of ups and downs so is parenting. Therefore, never give up and try to be consistent with your discipline skills. In order to make them listen, try good listening skills and always listen to them so that they can reflect on you and listen back to you. Remember, consistency and good listening skills are the keys.
I hope this blog helps you to with disciplining a child that won’t listen.
Thanks for reading!